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(mellow Asian music)

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- \"Nice Chinese girls don\'t
sing, swear, or shout out loud.

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Nice Chinese girls talk
with their eyes averted,

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sit with legs crossed,

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and laugh with hand in front of mouth.

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Nice Chinese girls don\'t
drink, smoke, or talk too loud.

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Nice Chinese girls sip their tea slow,

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use umbrellas in the sun,

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wear skirts and perm their hair.

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Nice Chinese girls don\'t get
divorced or become dykes.

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Nice Chinese girls
marry nice Chinese boys,

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have sons,

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stay home,

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and keep dinner warm on the stove.

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Nice Chinese girls don\'t
question, argue, or complain.

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Nice Chinese girls suffer in silence,

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endure with a smile,

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use chopsticks and speak fluent Chinese.

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Nice Chinese girls don\'t
make waves or talk back,

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speak only when spoken to,

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and learn young to turn the other cheek.

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Nice Chinese girls don\'t stay out late

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or take the subway alone at night.

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Nice Chinese girls get straight As,

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never tell lies,

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or say what they mean.

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I was born a nice Chinese girl.

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Good thing, it was a
phase I soon outgrew.\"

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(mellow Asian music)

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\"I was born in Hong Kong in 1952.

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My father had worked his way
up from third mate to captain

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of an ocean liner,

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when other Asians were cooks or sailors.

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He and my mother left me with
my grandmother in Hong Kong

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when my dad went to work in England.

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I loved my grandmother

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and she loved me and spoiled me.

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When I was five, she put
me on a plane to Liverpool

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where a strange woman holding
a baby in her arms met me.

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That was my mother.

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I was the only Chinese at the school.

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I had to learn English really fast.

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When I was 11, we moved back to Hong Kong

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where I was one of the
few Chinese students

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at an elite English school.

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When I graduated at 16, we
immigrated to San Francisco,

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which had the largest
population of Chinese

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outside of China.

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My family was very conservative.

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I ran away from home.

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I never again lived with my family.\"

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(soft guitar music)

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- [Announcer] You will
disperse immediately!

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- \"I enrolled at State amidst
protests of the Vietnam War

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and the International Hotel Strike.

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Attending State was the
beginning of my activism

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and birth as an activist poet.

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(mellow guitar music)

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I came out in 1973. It was a
great time to be a lesbian.

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There were women owned, coffee
houses, bars, restaurants,

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bookstores, newspapers,

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women\'s music, women\'s art.

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I discovered the poetry of Judy Grahn,

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Pat Parker, and Willyce Kim.

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These lesbian poets wrote powerful words

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that impacted me tremendously.

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They proved that I was alive and creative,

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that, like them, I was a living lesbian.

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I was born a tough girl,

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survived a childhood of
abuse and abandonment,

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found myself through struggle,

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and years of free-falling through pain.

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I am a tough girl,

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wear dark, dark glasses to
hide the emotions in my eyes,

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build my muscles to shield
myself from pain, from feelings.

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I am a tough girl.

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Not many things make me gasp for air.

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To tell you the truth,

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since I met you,

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I have to tell you,

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your kisses make me breathless.

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I came out in 1973.

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But as a Chinese lesbian,

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I felt I was the only one.

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I felt very lonely.

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It was mostly a white women\'s movement.

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I was eroticized and exoticized.

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Few years later, I became
friends with Anita Onang.

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She worked at the women\'s press collective

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with other lesbians,
including Willyce Kim.

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Willyce and I became fast friends.

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And we were together as lovers
for eight and a half years.

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When I was young, I wanted to be white.

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But when I fell in love with Asian women,

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and they with me,

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that began to change.

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I joined a group of Asian lesbians.

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We talked about the difficulty
of coming out to family,

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cultural traditions,

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and we always ate great food.

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It was not a very formal affair.

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Just the family getting together.

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Aunts and uncles and cousins,

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the grandson who was a dentist,

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the one who drives a Mercedes-Benz,

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sitting down for shark\'s fin soup.

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They talk about buying a house

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and taking a two week vacation in Beijing.

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I suck on shrimp and squab,

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dreaming of the cloud scape in your eyes.

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My mother, her voice beaded with sarcasm.

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\'You\'re 26 and not getting younger.

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It\'s about time you got a decent job.\'

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She no longer asks when
I\'m getting married.

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One day,

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wanting desperately to
bridge the boundaries

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that separate us,

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wanting desperately to touch her,

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tell her, \'Mother, I\'m gay.

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Mother I\'m gay.

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And so happy with her.\'

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But she will not listen.

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She shakes her head.

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She sits across from me.
Emotions invading her face.

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Her eyes are wet, but she
will not let tears fall.

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\'Mother,\' I say,

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\'You love a man.

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I love a woman.\'

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It is not what she wants to hear.

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Aunts and uncles and cousins,

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very much a family affair,

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but you are not invited,

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being neither my husband nor my wife.

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Aunts and uncles and cousins,
eating longevity noodles,

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fragrant with ham, inquire,

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\'Sold that old car of yours yet?\'

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I want to tell them my back is healing.

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I dream of dragons and water.

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My home is in her arms,

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our bedroom ceiling,

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the wide open sky.

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Six of us formed Unbound Feet.

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Unbound Feet was the nucleus

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of the Asian-Pacific lesbian movement.

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I\'ve been called Sway, Su,

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Sui, Suzie,

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Tissue, and Ah-Choo.

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If it\'s not bad enough,

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it\'s in the name.

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It\'s also in the face.

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One day, a woman instructor insisted

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I\'ve been one of her
guest speakers in a class.

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She was so sure of herself

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she had me convinced it
was during my alcohol days

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when memory was gone.

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Jenny Lim was the speaker.

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Orientals, so hard to tell apart.

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I\'ve been called Willyce Kim, Canyon Sam.

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It happens all the time.

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A newspaper woman thought I
was Willyce Kim for months.

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Willyce Kim gets called Susan Kwong.

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Nellie Wong is made Nellie Kim,

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or not mentioned by name at all.

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It\'s in the name.

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It\'s in the face.

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Orientals, so hard to tell apart.

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Our faces, strong, brown,

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different as the bumps on
the skin of bitter melon.

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Our tongues, sharp and fragrant as ginger,

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telling our history as
Asian-American women,

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workers and poets,

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cutting the ropes that bind us,

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breaking from the silence of centuries

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to write our dreams into action,

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give voice to our visions and
tongues to all foreparents,

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who entered at Chinese hospital,

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or the paper sons who came
by way of Angel Island,

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forced to take false names.

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The sewing shop worker,
the secretary, the doctor,

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the lesbian, the boxer,
the bike messenger,

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the student,

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each with a name,

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each with a face.

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Blood, bone, breath.

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When I went to the first Gay Games,

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the physique competition,

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there were only two women
in the lightweight class,

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and they brought down the house.

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I said to myself,

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\'I\'m gonna do that.\'\"

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- Our next finalist is a
writer from San Francisco,

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Kitty Tsui.

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(funky rock music)

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♪ Moving faster than I can think ♪

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♪ No memory, but thinking of you ♪

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♪ Time is passing and I can\'t think ♪

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♪ No feeling, but feeling for you ♪

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♪ I get up and dance ♪

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♪ I wave my hands ♪

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♪ I move my feet ♪

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♪ I become the beat ♪

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♪ And I sweat ♪

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♪ Going through the motions ♪

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♪ I sweat ♪

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♪ I sweat, I sweat, I sweat ♪

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♪ Going through the motions ♪

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♪ I sweat ♪

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♪ I sweat, I sweat, I sweat ♪

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- \"For Gay Games too,

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I found a coach, trained
for only three months,

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and won the bronze medal.\"

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♪ Going through the motions ♪

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♪ I sweat ♪

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♪ Until I\'m soaking wet ♪

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\"I never knew what a ham I was on stage.

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It felt great. And I loved it.

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Four years later, I won a gold medal.\"

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♪ I walk ♪

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\"The award-winning
photographer, Jill Posner,

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asked me to pose for the
lesbian sex magazine,

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\'On Our Backs.\'

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At first I said no,

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but I wanted to show that beauty

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is in every part of a woman,

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triceps, biceps, calves,

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not just tits and ass.

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So I agreed,

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but insisted they include one of my poems

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to show that I wasn\'t just a body,

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but a writer too.

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(mellow guitar music)

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Celebrities seduced me.

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I was much sought after
and full of myself.

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But the tides turned against
me and I fell into dark days.

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There was a rift in the arts community

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when Unbound Feet split.

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My nude photos in On Our Backs

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upset some in the Asian community,

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and many feminists were violently upset

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when I came out as a
leatherwoman and wrote about it.

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All of this brought me a lot of pain.

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I left San Francisco and
moved with Vizsla, Meggy,

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to Chicago to heal my wounds.

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I began writing about
my grandmother\'s life.

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I had cared for her through cancer.

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When she died,

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I found a stash of photos

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from when she was a famous opera singer,

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(somber Chinese music)

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photos of her marriage to my grandfather,

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who already had two other
wives and a concubine,

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and photos of an actress

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with whom my grandmother
lived for 10 years.

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When I told my grandma I was a lesbian,

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her only words were,

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\'What will happen when you grow old?\'

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I am old.

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I am an old lesbian.

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As a child, I was called chink.

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As an adult,

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I\'ve been called chink,
bitch, dyke, faggot,

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old bag, and nasty woman.

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What do I do with my outrage?

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I use drink to numb my pain.

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Now I turn rage into writing.

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I look in the mirror and I
see the face of my mother

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looking back at me,

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except it\'s not my mother,

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it\'s my grandmother.

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Except my grandmother had
more white in her hair

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and less lines on her face,

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but she was 79

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and I only 63.

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How can that be?

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A new acquaintance,

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on seeing a photo of my
youthful bodybuilding days,

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blurts out, \'What happened?\'

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What does that mean exactly?

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What happened?

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It\'s simple. I\'m growing old.

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Am I aging with grace?

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I see the tops of my
thighs lined and sagging.

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Perfect skin, smooth as silk.

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All my lover said, \'Smooth as silk.\'

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Bare arms,

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a reveal of shoulders,

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bare breasts,

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as I undress her,

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and I reveal myself to her,

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a glimpse,

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a tease, a play,

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her bare arms, her shoulders,

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her breasts exposed to me,

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as I moved down her body

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to lick her folds and
take her clit in my mouth,

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to suck and savor her juices.

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I smell her sweat,

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hear her moan.

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Hear her moan.

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Perfect skin,

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smooth as silk.

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How does this translate as
one grows old with grace?

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I study the furrows in my forehead,

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the lines on my face,

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frown lines,

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scowl lines,

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smile lines, laugh lines, age lines.

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How does one grow old with grace?

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Teach me how to grow old with grace.

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Writing a poem,

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a word, a line, an image,

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elude me as suddenly as they come.

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Memories as elusive as a dream.

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How does one grow old with grace?

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Grandma grew old with grace.

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Teach me how to grow old with grace.

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My elders,

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my younger sisters,

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we are kin,

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connected by the fire of our passion,

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our stories of struggle,

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our fight against injustice, prejudice,

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our craving for companionship,

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our desire to be free.

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How do we old lesbians
grow old with grace?

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We grow old together in community,

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in conversation

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in song, in spirit,

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in prayer,

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eating together,

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caring for each other,

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cementing bonds of sisterhood,

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friendship, camaraderie, and love.

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I grew old with age and grace.

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We grow old with age and grace.

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We are age and grace.\"

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(soft piano music)

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(mellow guitar music)